Talk:Equiduo/@comment-5931940-20170406044847

I get the feeling much of this could have been avoided if people had a little bit more knowledge and if they were a bit more caring. Sometimes it's better to humour a person, for the sake of the greater good. For instance, if I was in charge of the BUA, I probably would hade hoped instead that he would win. This would make him happy, and the problem would be solved. Instead, he got banned, which triggered more anger, and led to more conflicts. Sometimes you need to be "the bigger man", and think further ahead and do what's best long term.

Also, making videos about him, mocking him, will naturally also lead to more frustrations. Again, it's unnecessary. Banning from the Wikia for removing a quote from his own article? Really? Since when do we do that? The quote portrays him in a rather unflattering way, and there is no reason for it to remain there if it's against his wishes. Again - it's not worth it. It's better to remove it, rather than causing frustrations which can get consequenses.

When you're in a position of leadership, and as an adult, it's a an art to understand when it's right to take action, and when it isn't. Most of the time, it's best to humour people, and not to prioritise principles. Why? Because it keeps people calm and friendly (most of the time). It reduces drama, it creates a more diplomatic, friendly environment. It's better to save strong actions for times when they are truly needed, for instance if a person can not be reasoned with and they cause a great deal of damage, despite warnings. But I often find it's a better method to talk to the person, see if we can meet halfway, compromise. TL has been in DPS for months and not once has he acted in a way that I considered difficult. I'm willing to bet that the climate in DPS, and him knowing I will not allow him to be harassed, is the very reason for this positive behaviour he's showing in DPS.

In conclusion, treat a person with a gentle hand, with understanding and respect, and you often get it back. Treat them as if they're difficult, mock them and be harsh to them, you will see more of those behaviours.